Molding Our Reality: Concepts and Perceptions. By Kathy Oddenino

Concepts and perceptions are both levels of our thinking mind. Of course we have additional levels of our thinking mind, but it is important for us to know how we focus our thinking mind and how we prefer to focus our thinking mind many times on concepts and perceptions that have little if anything to do with truth. As we live our life with the intention of growth and change, we can clutter our thinking mind with many concepts that are not real in any aspect of our human potential, but we will think they are. If we clutter up our thinking mind with inaccuracies, we will not have the thinking space that we need to focus on truth. If we have become addicted to inaccuracies, we will not know the difference between truth and fiction.

Once we learn to focus on the subject that is at hand, we will come closer to opening up our thinking mind to the best and most effective approach to what we want to do. Our concepts of life and our perceptions about life are always of our own making.

We may learn some concepts of lessons from our family, but the majority of concepts and perceptions that we have about our lives are left over from our past lives and consist of the lessons that it has been hard for us to learn. Our lessons are learned in levels. We might learn only one minor level in one life or we might learn many lessons at deeper and deeper levels, which are left over from our past lives. As we work with our concepts and perceptions of life, we expand the ways in which our mind functions and we allow ourselves to grow from each experience. This is the definition of our internal growth.

The more information that we have about ourselves, our family, life in general, and the knowledge that we have learned from living, the more we can understand ourselves, our relationship to life, and the relationship that we have to other people, our family, our jobs, our friends, and to ourselves, the more we learn to appreciate life and living.

Our knowledge is always the result of our perceptions.

Multiple people can hear the exact same words but their evaluation of those words has to do with the depth of their knowledge and their varied experiences that they have lived to use as their examples of definition. We must never shy away from learning at the deepest level that we can possibly learn. Our level of learning will always be designed by our life experiences and the beliefs that we are attached to.

Eating is a perfect example of how we live our concepts and perceptions to influence our entire physical, mental, and emotional life. If we have a belief that “all food is good food,” that will be the way that we eat, drink, and breathe, because we will not have any concept that another way may be a better way and we may not even know that another way of eating is available to us. It is very clear to me that many people eat, drink, and breathe in multiple toxic ways. We breathe in a toxic manner when we spray any chemical in our house or set any chemical out to deodorize our air. Being toxic to ourselves through our behaviors multiplies the challenges in our life, and being unaware of these challenges that we present for ourselves is precisely what Spiritual Philosophy is capable of helping us to overcome.

Our concepts and perceptions of what is healthy and what isn’t healthy leaves much for us to learn. Basically our concepts and perceptions are available to us as a guide to learning truth. Truth is about living the Ethical Values as the guiding energy of our life.

If we want to change, we must consistently live our truthful behavior as the total essence of our human life. Many people have learned to lie as children and have not changed that childish behavior in their adult life. Lying is always a total “giveaway” within our personality, which shows us the negative energy of our Dual Soul working overtime and it also shows our lack of integrity. Anyone that is addicted to lying can never teach Spiritual Philosophy as truth, because they are unable to “know” and to “recognize” truth, which prevents them from living truth.

If we have a perception that we are living truth, we need to write down our conversations and keep track of what we are saying in order to trace our behavior and see how often, if ever, we actually do speak truth. When we are attempting to learn how to live as a Spiritual person, we must begin to live the Ethical Values as our consistent everyday behavior. If we lie to ourselves and think that we are living our Ethical Values, we must look at our speech patterns and our behavior on a daily basis to make certain that we are living our truth. If we say one thing and do another thing, we are not living truth. Truth is always our personal responsibility. No one else can speak truth for us. If we are living with a perception that we always speak truth, we must be honest with ourselves. If we write down our truth, we have a record of what we are looking for which we can go back and check. Without having our truth written down, we can make it up as we live our life.

Kathy Oddenino, www.kathyoddenino.com, created Joy Publications and the Institute of Metaphysical Studies to support the dissemination of Spiritual Philosophy, the knowledge of the Ethical Values as our spiritual human design as energy and matter. Kathy’s life is consistent with her teachings, including her experiences of disease and healing. Her 40 years as an R.N. and patient advocate included transplant and immunology research, emergency care, nursing administration, and clinical practice. Since 1984 she has taught seminars and retreats designed to help people understand who we are as physical/spiritual energy beings. Kathy is committed to teaching her knowledge of disease prevention and healing by writing, Spiritual Counseling, Neural Depolarization, and teaching the basics of our human design that allow us to accept responsibility for healing. Kathy has published 8 books to date.

Each and every human being is born to love, and they will unconsciously seek love from birth until death. Many individuals think that sex is love, which is absolutely inaccurate. Sex is a physical act and love is an emotion. When sex is good sex with someone you love, you can certainly feel the expansion of your physical love with sex into an emotional love. This can be a short journey or a long journey which is ultimately dependent upon the circumstances of the depth of loving emotions that has been cultivated within you and shared with other people.

Love as our emotional self must always be strong enough to balance out our thinking mind. If our thinking mind is living in fear, we will usually not have discovered the love that is within us as part of our human design.

The love that we feel for another person is always teaching us some energy of a Dual Soul lesson, whether or not we understand our loving emotions. When we want to learn the truth of love, we must understand our loving emotions as an integrated energy of us as human beings and consciously use our loving emotions before we can become conscious of the internal love that we feel, which is essentially an energy of loving emotion. This helps us to understand that sex is not love. Sex is a physical act, and love is an emotion. We can feel the emotions of love without having physical sex, if our thinking mind has advanced far enough to engage with our loving emotions. Our thinking mind, loving emotions, and sensory response to life are all coming from the energy of our brain. Have we learned to think? When we have the ability to think, we also have the ability to know love, if we are not suffering from intense brain damage.

When people do not understand the truth of love, we can have abuse occur to a child, despite the fact that the adult may have interpreted their behavior as love. When we begin to compare the love that we feel for our family to the love that we feel for someone that is unrelated to us, we begin to feel the difference. Family love is a “soul connected” love. We may live in circumstances where we never see the person that we love, but in our heart and Soul we love them anyway on a deeper level, even if we cannot verbalize how we feel. Distant love is a love that teaches us more sometimes than the everyday closeness of love, because we will create a scenario in our mind that allows us to experience the beauty of the internal feeling of love. This can be a lesson of love for many people who experience death or divorce. We have friends, relatives, children, and family members that we may not see on a consistent basis, but distance does not interfere with the love that we feel for them.

Love is an energy. Thought is an energy. When our life creates a distance between us and the person or people that we love, our thoughts can help us contact their thoughts and we can feel the love and the closeness of the physical presence as we think about them.

One vital aspect of love that we must all remember is, “love is as love does.” Love is not just a word and it has very little to do with our sexual conquests, because love is designed within us as an emotion, which we use as a way of expressing the energy of ourselves. We can always feel the emotions of love towards our family, friends, and other special friends if we have learned to use our emotions of love. Learning to use our emotions of love is our challenge because in our physical thought process, we can think that love is sex. There is no necessary relationship between sex and love. Sex is a physical act. Love is an emotion. If we feel the emotions of love during our sexual relationships, we will be helping ourselves to grow and change. When sex is used as a physical behavior to release tension but without the emotion of love, it is shared masturbation, which has nothing to do with our loving emotions.

Love is an emotion that is felt in our heart as well as our head or physical body. When we feel our “sexual need” only in our head or body, it is usually devoid of any and all loving emotions, therefore we can see that “physical need” is more accurate as a description than love is. As human beings we have ventured out of the “cave” to understand ourselves as loving human beings. After thousands of years, we think that we are truly ready to look at ourselves. But most of our sexual behaviors are still physical and usually have no true loving emotions. We may encounter people with plenty of sexual drive that is secondary to friction, but without any semblance of love as a loving emotion, which always shows us that we have not grown enough as human beings to want, give, and to share the emotions of love. The human species is an evolving species. Most humans have more class and thoughtfulness today than they did 100 lifetimes ago. Living our physical lives is our method of growth and change as a human species.

This is precisely why knowledge is vital to our thinking mind. Without knowledge, we will not and cannot grow and change at the same level. Once we learn a lesson, we must live that lesson countless times to work out the details and to set it in place in our Spirit Consciousness. This is the reason that Spiritual Philosophy has been the way of learning since the ancient days of man’s creation.

If we repeat each day precisely like our last day, what have we learned??? As we live our journey to understand and to live our love, we give ourselves an opportunity to grow and change in new and better understood realities. The most important method of change is to learn the difference between right behavior and wrong behavior. As a human species, we can look at history and our own personal life and clearly see the path that we have been living as our own method of learning. If we are living any level of lying, cheating, and stealing, it becomes very easy to see that we have a long ways to go before we can say hello to change. The basic change that we make within ourselves through our growth is to change from fear to love.

The Ethical Values are our guideposts to change and growth. For instance, as we learn the value of Truth in our everyday lives, we can bring about a dramatic change in our Dual Soul growth. Truth is the most important lesson that we have to learn as a Dual Soul. What is the truth of us? What do we gain in our life by living our truth? Living any form of untruth allows us to “get stuck” in negative energy, which can take us years and years of multiple lives before we can overcome our lying, fear, and inequality.

Many times people ask me, “how can this happen?” Love can be felt within us from another person because love is an energy.

We are energy as human beings. Unfortunately we have been taught that we are just physical beings, which is inaccurate because it is the love that gives our body life and allows us to be conscious of the energies of other people who may not be physically present in our life.

Many times a “long-distance” love is all that we have. But long-distance love is a love that is being lived through the energy fields. When we understand that we are energy beings living in matter, we can understand how to connect with those we love, where ever they may be. Energy is the eternal pattern of us. Our human body is our physical image that is at all times dependent upon our Spiritual Energy for life. When we can accept that we are both energy and matter as human beings, we can fill those empty spots in our heart by connecting with the energy of the person that we are missing.

Sex is not love. Sex is a physical act. Love is an emotion. When we experience sex with both the emotions of love and a pleasurable physical response, we may have more of a conscious awareness of the love that we feel, but love as an emotion is a very strong energy field that can travel enormous distances to feel the love of another person. Poetry has been written about our “undying” love and it is helpful if you are feeling the loss of love to read some poetry and let it soak into your Soul and your heart. Love as an emotion is an energy and it travels with the speed of light, primarily through our internal thoughts to reach the person that we love. We should all be sending energy as love to those we know and love. Love is a powerful stimulant that increases our love of life and other people, but most of all love is an energy which can strengthen the internal forces of another person. Love is the elixir that can heal the world and us if we are not afraid to live our love with other people.

Years ago there was a common saying, “make love, not war,” which I feel is appropriate today as long as it is two consenting or married adults.

Love has a strong positive energy that builds the unity and purpose of our physical reality, war has only destructive energies at all levels of interaction. Energy is everything, which makes it essential that all humans develop their internal consciousness of Energy as the force that controls their life. We have a choice, we can live love or we can live fear.

Love is not synonymous with sex. Love is an emotion. Sex is a physical act. Fear is a negative emotion that rapes our thinking mind. The energy that we live is our choice, but it helps to know the concept and design of energy so that we can use our free choice of love with the wisdom to strengthen our human physical lives.

~~~ About the contributor ~~~

Kathy Oddenino created Joy Publications and the Institute of Metaphysical Studies to support the dissemination of Spiritual Philosophy, the knowledge of the Ethical Values as our spiritual human design as energy and matter. Kathy’s life is consistent with her teachings, including her experiences of disease and healing. Her 40 years as an R.N. and patient advocate included transplant and immunology research, emergency care, nursing administration, and clinical practice. Since 1984 she has taught seminars and retreats designed to help people understand who we are as physical/spiritual energy beings. Kathy is committed to teaching her knowledge of disease prevention and healing by writing, Spiritual Counseling, Neural Depolarization, and teaching the basics of our human design that allow us to accept responsibility for healing. Kathy has published 8 books to date. www.kathyoddenino.com

It is very important that we know who we are.  Very few of us understand ourselves as energy beings that live multiple physical lives as we gradually learn our eternal lessons of life.  This is why each and every one of us should stop and silently ask ourselves, “who am I?”  We are never the true image of another person, whether that person is our spouse, a parent, a friend, or simply someone that we admire such as a “movie star.”  Even movie stars have their mental and emotional challenges in life, just exactly as all humans do as they grow and change through their multiple physical lives.

Our most intense problem is that we do not recognize or accept ourselves as an eternal energy being that is living in different physical lives as a means of growth and change.

Once scientists get over their “one life belief” we will be capable of tracking our multiple lives to scientifically know who we were in a past life.  If we choose not to track our lives through science, we can remember our past lives and look very carefully at each and every one of them to see what we have learned and what we have to learn in our new lives.  If we are not afraid to think about ourselves as eternal beings, we will recognize how our lessons jump up in front of our face to show us who we are in each and every life that we live.  In addition to our physical energy, we have a Dual Soul and Spirit Energy that will frequently remind us of what we must learn and why we must learn it.  Our energy never dies but it does change its energetic and physical form. But if we see ourselves as strictly physical beings that live only one physical life to experience death, then we cannot become conscious of what we are learning every day that we live as a human being.

As a nurse that has worked for 50 years of my life, I clearly understand that we are energy people as well as physical people.  As a nurse that has been involved in codes and death in my job, I have seen the Spirit Energy of many people rise above their dead body and move like a rocket energy as the Soul and Spirit leaves for a new home in a new body.  Many times these energies have talked to me, telling me their goals in their new physical lives.  This is why I have such a strong belief in eternal life.  As energy beings we live eternal lives in which we create a new physical body for each new life.  We are energy beings first, that must always in every life support our energy with the water, air, and foods of Nature.  If we do not support our human physical body with Nature’s air, foods, and water we cannot support our evolving mind, emotions, and senses with their evolving energy, which is the core reason of all disease in the human body.

Our Spirit Energy puts on a new “outfit of garments” as a new body and goes forth to begin a new level of learning at our time of death.  This is the definition of us as eternal human beings.  When we are living with a belief in living only one life, we are living a destructive energy that takes the support of our past life energy away from us in our evolving energy, which means that we must start all over again in our next lifetime, including learning the power of healthy eating, breathing Nature’s pure air, and drinking pure water.  This is the secret of health as our energy source.

Once we begin to accept ourselves as energy beings, which is how we live our physical lives, we begin to feel differently about who we are, the multiple lives that we must live to grow and change into Spiritual Beings while living on Earth, and we see the beauty of our human design.

Our disease potential as human beings has become overwhelming and the sooner that we learn the truth of ourselves as energy beings first, the longer we will choose to live as physical beings and consciously support our Dual Soul growth.  Our Nervous System is the essence of our eternal design as an energy being and once we understand our Nervous System we will be capable of healing all diseases.  I have always understood the energy of us and our Nervous System, which is why I can heal diseases that the medical profession cannot heal.

We are at all times energy beings living in physical matter, which is an important issue for us to understand, if we want to be healthy and live a long physical life.

~~~ About the contributor ~~~

Kathy Oddenino created Joy Publications and the Institute of Metaphysical Studies to support the dissemination of Spiritual Philosophy, the knowledge of the Ethical Values as our spiritual human design as energy and matter. Kathy’s life is consistent with her teachings, including her experiences of disease and healing. Her 40 years as an R.N. and patient advocate included transplant and immunology research, emergency care, nursing administration, and clinical practice. Since 1984 she has taught seminars and retreats designed to help people understand who we are as physical/spiritual energy beings. Kathy is committed to teaching her knowledge of disease prevention and healing by writing, Spiritual Counseling, Neural Depolarization, and teaching the basics of our human design that allow us to accept responsibility for healing. Kathy has published 8 books to date. www.kathyoddenino.com

This morning I awakened with this question bouncing back and forth within my mind. Love is an emotion, which makes it a very powerful form of energy. We can live our physical life without any hint of loving emotions being present in our interactions with other people. But when we love ourselves, we will think about our life as fun. Every aspect of our continuous interaction will be enjoyable and exciting. We will learn to love other people in the same energy that we love ourselves. This brings us to the question of how much we love ourselves. If we do not love ourselves, we will continuously be sabotaging our own personal happiness. To love other people, we must start with self-love, which we can then reflect into our behaviors and into our multiple relationships. When we ask ourselves what it means to love ourselves, we begin to realize too frequently, that we do not love ourselves and we do not nurture ourselves in the loving manner that we should.

When we begin to look at loving ourselves, we must look at how we live the Ethical Values in our physical, emotional, and intellectual lives. The most significant way that we can determine how we live our love is to look internally to see how we continuously live the Ethical Values as we live our physical lives and especially our interactions with other people. Do we love ourselves? Do we take care of ourselves without living a lie in our relationships with other people? Loving ourselves and loving other people are not contradictory statements. When we see love as physical sex, we can become very confused about our love for other people, because we have been led to believe that “sex is love.” Nothing could be further from the truth. Sex can be a means of expressing our love, but we can also have sex without even a hint of love from either person being present. Our first image of love is found in the interaction that we have with our family members.

Love is an emotion of our Dual Soul, which means that love is built into the human design as part of the intelligent design of our Dual Soul. If we use only our intellect and we ignore our love, we usually do so because we have not yet evolved into our loving emotions as a Dual Soul. When we have not yet evolved into the loving emotions of our Dual Soul, we will usually have a belief that “sex is love.” Our loving emotions are an integrated part of our Dual Soul energy. When we begin our journey into our Dual Soul love we must get out of the image that our thinking mind is all that matters. Our thinking mind and our loving emotions share equal space in our brain energy. Have we been taught that our thinking mind and loving emotions are both energy fields that we must integrate equally within our own human energy? No, we have not been taught this concept that we should be equal in our thinking mind and loving emotions as energy, but we should have learned this vital concept.

We have lived with the “sex is love” belief to make sure that we continue with our evolution. Love is an emotion. Sex is a physical act. This means that love and sex can never be synonymous, but we have a personal responsibility to learn how to use our sexuality and our loving emotions simultaneously and equally. As a human species we are continuing to work with this lesson of our Dual Soul, because we do not always accept that sex and love are issues that we are attempting to learn as human beings. The only way that we can learn this lesson is to understand our human design. We do not need to go out on a sexual safari and experiment with our loving emotions to understand the depth of love that we are living. But we must begin to look at how we feel about our family members, our friends, and our acquaintances that we know and interact with.

We must all learn to love ourselves before we can truly participate lovingly in the sexual act with another person.

Loving ourselves is not a sexual behavior, but it is a very loving behavior, where we take care of ourselves as though we are a trillion dollar investment that has come out of our own internal pocket.

When we understand the investment that each of us has in ourselves, we never attempt to live behavior that is harmful to us. We cherish ourselves and our eternal human lives. We “do no harm” to ourselves or to other people. We live the Ethical Values of our Spirit Consciousness and we love who we are. Love is a very special emotion that is built into our human design of Spirit Consciousness, which includes our thinking mind, loving emotions, Spirit Senses, and our physical body. If we are not living our loving emotions, it may be because we have not known that we are energy as our loving emotions, and it is this energy of our loving emotions that supports our eternal life.

When we begin to truly understand our human design as energy, we begin to love ourselves. When we love ourselves we will release all of our dishonest behaviors that allow us to take advantage of other people, and we will appreciate the beauty and wisdom of “who we are,” as an evolving energy field that is living its eternal lives through the internal energy of our loving emotions as part of our Spirit Consciousness. We are a very special design as human beings, because we are designed with the ability to grow through understanding self. If we are afraid of understanding ourselves, we will avoid commitments throughout our physical lives by copying other people, with the internal concept that what has worked for another person will also work for us. Everything that we see, hear, touch, or feel, we will feel certain that it will not be “good” for us until we can “copy” it from someone else. This is the “tried and true” method of life.

Our “fear of failure” will keep us from being original with any of our creations, which will in turn expand our “need” to copy another person as we smother ourselves in fear. We want to copy another person because then we can truly believe that what was good for the other person will also be good for us, which will be used to lift us up in the sands of time.

Copying is a “coward’s” way of facing life.

Originality is more than we can cope with, because people will know that “we are not as smart” as the people that we might want to be compared to. Fear is a terrifying energy when we find it snapping at our mind and we do not want to reveal ourselves. We cannot and will not ever live these fear emotions if we love our self. Therefore when we act out our fears in our physical life, we may not consciously be aware of our fears, but other people can easily see and recognize our fear energy, which many people will respond to through avoidance and copying. 

Living the strength of our own internal convictions is how we learn to “love” ourselves and be original in our thinking and doing. No one else can be “original” for us.

~~~ About the contributor ~~~

Kathy Oddenino created Joy Publications and the Institute of Metaphysical Studies to support the dissemination of Spiritual Philosophy, the knowledge of the Ethical Values as our spiritual human design as energy and matter. Kathy’s life is consistent with her teachings, including her experiences of disease and healing. Her 40 years as an R.N. and patient advocate included transplant and immunology research, emergency care, nursing administration, and clinical practice. Since 1984 she has taught seminars and retreats designed to help people understand who we are as physical/spiritual energy beings. Kathy is committed to teaching her knowledge of disease prevention and healing by writing, Spiritual Counseling, Neural Depolarization, and teaching the basics of our human design that allow us to accept responsibility for healing. Kathy has published 8 books to date. www.kathyoddenino.com